Print

Resources >> Browse Articles >> Nursing Trends

Resources >> Browse Articles >> On the Job

+8

How Nurses Can Help End Horizontal Hostility in Three Easy Steps

How Nurses Can Help End Horizontal Hostility in Three Easy Steps

Cindy Mehallow / Monster Contributing Writer

Nurses are supposed to be compassionate caregivers. So why are so many scarred emotionally from the gossip, backstabbing, second-guessing and other abusive, demoralizing or hostile acts nurses inflict on one another?

If you’ve had enough of the fighting, read on. Veteran nurses explain why such horizontal hostility occurs, revealing the true price it exacts, and share tips for creating a more collegial workplace.

Originally published on Monster.com


+8
  • Photo_user_blank_big

    MelroseBelleacre

    28 days ago

    2 comments

    I have been a nurse for 22 years, and during that time, I rarely saw horizontal violence in civilian hospitals, but it's a totally different story in the Veteran's Administration hospital. The federal government SHOULD be the model for all other employers, yet they have deeply ingrained hostility and bullying. I have witnessed physical violence between managment toward staff nurses, staff toward management, patients toward nurse and nurse toward patient. The Veteran's hospital also has a 2 year probationary period during which the employee can be terminated without cause, so these issues are rarely brought to management's attention and when they are the person reporting the issues are told "perhaps you don't fit into our culture". I have seen situations where nursing has been abusive to patients, and those witnessing the event were terrified to report it. I am presently waiting for news on my retirement from federal service and I think my exit from nursing as well. This left me emotionally scarred and I have no desire to work with such narcissistic evil people ever again. I doubt that I will seek medical care with the exception of dire emergencies either, because I do not trust the nursing profession and even less the medical profession.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    mk2013

    5 months ago

    1156 comments

    http://www.coach-blackfriday.com/ Coach Black Friday Sale

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    mk2013

    5 months ago

    1156 comments

    Gucci Outlet Online, http://www.gucci-shoesfactory.com/
    North Face Jackets Clearance, http://www.north-clearances.com/
    Ralph Lauren Outlet Online, http://www.laurenpoloralph.com/
    Coach Factory Outlet, http://www.coach-factories.com/
    michael kors black friday sale, http://www.mkoutletstars.com/
    Michael Kors Outlet Store, http://www.michaelkorsoutletsusa.com/
    Polo Outlet, http://www.polo-outletstoreonline.com/
    Coach Purse Outlet Online,
    Louis Vuitton black friday sale, http://www.lv-guccishoesfactory.com/
    Gucci Bags Outlet, http://www.gucci-storeuk.com/
    Coach Factory Outlet Online, http://coachfactory.zxcoachoutlet.com/
    Coach Purses Outlet, http://www.newoutletonlinemall.com/
    MCM black friday, http://mcmbackpack.mischristmas.com/
    Coach Factory, http://www.bags-outletfactory.com/
    Ugg Bailey Button Factory, http://uggsbootsale.tumblr.com/
    Monster Headphones Outlet Online, http://monsterbeats.mischristmas.com/
    Michael Kors Outlet Online, http://michaelkorsoutlet.mischristmas.com/
    North Face Jackets Outlet Online, http://northfaceoutlet.mischristmas.com/

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    mk2013

    6 months ago

    1156 comments

    Gucci Outlet Online, http://www.guccishoes-factory.net/
    Coach Factory Outlet, http://www.coachfactories.com/
    Ralph Lauren Outlet Online, http://www.laurenpoloralph.com/
    North Face Jackets Clearance, http://www.north-clearances.com/
    MCM Bags Outlet Online, http://www.mcmsworldwide.com/
    Michael Kors Outlet Online, http://www.clickmichaelkors.com/
    Coach Outlet, http://coachoutlettusa.tumblr.com/
    Coach Purse Outlet Online, http://www.coach-pursesonsale.com/
    Louis Vuitton Outlet, http://www.lv-guccishoesfactory.com/
    Michael Kors USA Outlet, http://www.michaelkorsoutletstate.com/
    Monster Beats Outlet, http://www.mmonsterheadphones.net/
    Coach Factory Store, http://coachfactorys.tumblr.com/
    North Jackets Outlet Online, http://www.north-faceoutletonlines.net/
    Coach Factory, http://www.bags-outletfactory.com/
    Coach Purses Outlet, http://www.newoutletonlinemall.com/
    Polo Outlet, http://www.polo-outletstoreonline.com/
    Louis Vuitton Outlet Online, http://www.l-vusashop.com/
    Ugg Bailey Button Factory, http://auuggboots.tumblr.com/
    Coach Outlet Online, http://www.copursesoutletonline.com/
    Michael Kors Outlet, http://www.mkoutletcart.com/
    http://www.newoutletonlinemall.com/ Coach Outlet Coach Outlet Online Coach Factory Outlet Online Coach Factory Outlet Coach Factory Online Coach Factory Store Coach Factory Coach Purses Outlet Online Coach Purses Outlet Coach Outlet USA Coach Outlet Online USA Coach Store Online Coach Store Outlet

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    mk2013

    6 months ago

    1156 comments

    I do not know what time, http://www.guccishoes-factory.net/, the village children climb playing, Michael Kors Outlet, I found Huangguoshu some changes, MCM Bags Outlet Online, his few thick branches, Ugg Bailey Button Factory, and was covered with a sack, Polo Outlet, sack a lot of dirt, children baffled, Coach Factory, ask adults, Coach Purse Outlet Online, adults do not know, Gucci Outlet Online, they go to glasses uncle, Coach Factory Outlet, glasses uncle climbed carefully looked at, North Face Jackets Clearance, that he saw from the book, such an approach, Coach Purses Outlet, called the abutment, Michael Kors USA Outlet, the first lap of the skin, http://www.laurenpoloralph.com/, most branches, Coach Factory Store, stripped off their water and nutrients, and promote their long root, Monster Beats Outlet, and then the amputated, Coach Outlet, will even land plummeted to the ground, Ralph Lauren Outlet Online, it becomes a separate tree, Louis Vuitton Outlet, villagers find secretary, Louis Vuitton Outlet Online, secretary shrugged frustration, Michael Kors Outlet Online, that this tree has been a developer, Coach Outlet Online, in town fancy, North Jackets Outlet Online, get going to be planted, in the new development zone.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    fundaiphone4

    over 2 years ago

    118 comments

    Funda iphone 4g | Funda iphone 4 Recientemente vine accross Funda de cuero para iPhone 4G su blog y he estado leyendo a lo largo. Pensé que yo dejaría mi comentario.. Yo que dont sabe que decir pero he disfrutado leyendo Fundas iphone 4 | Fundas iphone 4g .
    Niceblog. Voy a keepvisiting este blogvery a menudo....
    y bienvenidos a mi sitio web: www.bestdscard.com or www.accesorios4iphone.com.
    accesorios4iphone ———Compre el Funda iphone,Carcasa Iphone ,Accesorios iPhone 4G,Funda de cuero para iPhone 4G,Funda iphone chic,Funda de cuero ipad 2,accessorios4iphone es el mejor lugar para comprar.Funda iphone,carcasa iPhone,accesorios iphone,accesorios ipad 2
    Apple Inc. sostiene Funda iPhone 4 rueda de prensa en su Funda iPhone 4 Cupertino, California.la oficina central Funda iphone para responder a la crítica creciente de su Accesorios iPhone 4G iPhone y posiblemente ofrece Funda iPad solución con los propietarios que Accesorios iPhone 4G han tenido Funda iPad2 problemas de recepción.La empresa lanzó el Funda iPad 2 teléfono último Funda iPhone 4G el mes, y ello Funda de ipad2 se ha vendido con bríos
    .Pero algún caso iphone 4G los propietarios se han quejado de Carcasa Iphone 4 llamadas dejadas caer cuando Carcasa Iphone 4 ellos sostienen el teléfono caso ipad 2 en un camino que Carcasa Ipad cubre su caso ipad 2 antena
    ,que es Funda iphone 3G contenido en un accesorios ipad el acero inoxidable ata accesorios ipad 2 alrededor de accesorios del teléfono ipad 2 marco.El lunes, el Consumidor fundas iphone Informes lo dijo el párrafo fundas iphone más recomendaría funda iphone 3gs el teléfono debido al Funda iphone el problema de antena de manzana
    .Thatfundas y el párrafo de casos IPHONE marcó primer funda iphone 3, funda sgp el tiempo que esto no tenía Accesorios de iPhone recomendó un accesorios iphone Gevey desbloquear Sim iPhone, un icono de párrafo accesorios
    BestDScard----cheap and real acekard,Acekard 2i,supercard,Supercard DSTWO,DSTTi,r4i sdhc 1.4.2,Ez flash,M3i Zero,R4i Gold,acekard2i,AK2i,dstwo,r4i-sdhc-----fast and free shipping for you!!!

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    nurse6241

    over 3 years ago

    2 comments

    I have been a nurse for a year. During nursing school I was constantly targeted by instructors. Now that I'm working, I experience much more resistance from coworkers that are not nurses. The bullying that stems from "nurse envy" is worse than from a real nurse. Atleast nurses are educated.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    losbozos

    almost 4 years ago

    4 comments

    Eat our young? No, we don't limit the feeding frenzy to the young. After 25+ years of unblemished career, I've been on medical leave of absence as a result of sabottage, backstabbing, detailed and daily scrutiny. My confidence and nerves are shattered; too scared to even fill out applications for a new job. If any of you think this couldn't happen to you, think again. If you gossip, pass on rumors, watch a collegue for ANY mistake, no matter how small..., stop it right now! It counts and causes harm. You don't see doctors do that to each other in front of nurses. I'd leave nursing if I was younger but can't afford it at this time of my life. Yeah, I know some of the readers will say, "Well, she must have done something wrong to get to this point?". Well, I was written up for using a pink marker on a post-it instead of red. If someone or a clique has it out for you, even the color of your socks may be problem for them.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    jamessburke

    over 4 years ago

    2 comments

    Even in nursing school, my friends and I thought that nursing students in general were a bit warped. I have been a nurse for 9 years and I think that the field just attracts emotionally unstable and damaged folks. Enough said

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    gnurjr2

    over 4 years ago

    2 comments

    My first job out of nursing school, the Manager told me " Nurses are not nice people", we eat our young. That shoud have told me right there not to take the job, but there are very, very few jobs for new grads right now, so I took it. I lasted 2 months. My preceptor nurse told me I was stupid, slow, and made fun of me in front of the other nurses. I took it and took, it. I couldn't sleep or eat. One night I came home and thought I was having a heart attack. I found that the other nurses would not help me, when I asked a question, and a total lack of empathy. Truly a bunch of sick women. I will never forget how I was treated, and the things that were said to me behind closed doors. I resigned, and it has taken me 4 months to find another position. My confidence was knocked down to nothing. I feel sorry for new grads, and the pititul nurses that I was working with at my first job.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    whitedoginwi

    over 4 years ago

    6 comments

    I Have found that nurses do eat there young. They call it knowing your place and paying your dues. Nurse also eat each other. That is why there is a nursing shortage. Nurses can not take the anger, hostility and petty little games that go on.

    I myself will not allow myself to the instigator of this type of behavior and I am calling on all nurses out there to stop this behavior and if you are new to not engage in it from the satrt. We as nurses need to pull together, We need to form a sister/brotherhood of nursing professional. we need to stabd together. Not rip each other apart.

    If we, as individual nurses, stop this behavior and don't allow others around us to particiapte in each our young and each other, then it will have to cease. We need to be the caring a compassionate people that lead us to become nurses, in the first place to guide our lives. Use some of that caring and suport for each other. We all be so much happier.

    I have ranted on this topic before. As a student, I was eaten three times and I vowed, I will never eat another person, nurse or otherwise. I ask all nurses to join me in a " no eat campaign".

  • Deployed_dec_02_-_mar_03_083_max50

    USAFlightMedic

    over 4 years ago

    86 comments

    Great article I'm actually bookmarking for ref.

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    illbeanurse

    over 4 years ago

    4 comments

    they don't eat their young but they sure do eat each other!! i thought hairdressers were bad.... I often stand in amazement at the argument between nursing staff and management, especially when there is a peer review over some trivial thing that really did need to be looked at for efficiency sake, or scheduling issues, or IT ALWAYS HAS TO BE SOMETHING. OHHH then there's not on my license you wont...it has caused me to be more selective of who i ask what, who i spend my time with. with all that, there is also inter-unit fighting, the place i am working isnt unlike others i've worked at, seeems to be a running theme. i am from an over educated underemployed lifestyle, (professional student) and nursing is what is coming into my life at this stage of my life.. I am excited about becoming something new again.. a nurse. i will say this about most of what i see and the common denominator in this specific area.. as is with most things that concern a need to be heard, believed and trusted, it is EGO that gets in the way..then pride steps in, i can run down the list of "character defects " , and my life experience REQUIRED that i learn, at some point, how to deal with my insecurities, and "respond" in a manner that is acceptable to those i am with, identify, accept, and even communicate in the face of possible death, I have learned that MY EGO has no place in defense of my self, and that pride, is just another mechanism to avoid admitting i might be wrong.. i realize I might not be making alot of sense, it has been a long few days and rest comes in small bits. but it is worth it, all this drivel just to say, YEAH IT SUCKS, I HATE IT TOO!! and you'd think that people with as much (or little) education as nurses have, that things could be different. i just grew up differently than most it would seem, and i don't make time for that kind of emotional assault in my life., i would rather teach people how to avoid it.. it is truly simple. anyhow MUCH LOVE

  • Photo_user_blank_big

    Ang

    over 4 years ago

    2 comments

    Sweet! Hgant3 where are you going to work?? Love the attitude!!

  • Att3041931_max50

    dwright

    over 4 years ago

    8 comments

    Wow. I am just entering nursing school and this is ridiculous. Talk about a contradiction - help paitients, but not each other. Sounds too dramatic and a lot of insecurities to deal with. I definitely am not afraid of confrontation or dealing with issues or the drama immediately and effectively as hgant3 mentioned. It will not and should not be tolerated. Ridiculous.

NursingLink School Finder

Save time in your search for a nursing or healthcare degree program. Use NursingLink's School Finder to locate schools online and in your area.

Get Info

* In the event that we cannot find a program from one of our partner schools that matches your specific area of interest, we may show schools with similar or unrelated programs.