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Complaining Classmates
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Posted almost 3 years ago
I recently started an RN program that is brand new to my school. It has been less than one quarter, (school uses 8 quarter systems for ADN) but I have been subjected to non-stop complaints and arguments from day one. It seems like everyday there is an outburst of some sort and it really is embarrassing. I am not in a prestigious program but one would think that people would have had enough b*tching and complaining now that we are 10 weeks into the program!!! No one wants to learn, everyone wants everything given to them. One of the biggest complainers of the classes only filled out 2 pages out of 4 on a recent exam ....Yeah, I'm sure the problem is the test and not the fact that you didn't do any studying.... I understand the hypocrisy in complaining about complainers, but sometimes in class, I just want to stand up and scream! I am one of two males in a female dominated class. Are all classes like this? Please don't interpret this as sexist but is it because women are sometimes catty to each other(female professors)? |
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| Posted almost 3 years ago Thanks for the words of wisdom. The program is extremely poorly managed. I have never considered quitting because I like to see things through to the end. It's been a long 12 weeks and I am just about through with things and I am hoping that a new quarter will bring new experiences. Instead of useless arguing and disrespecting of teachers. |
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| Posted almost 3 years ago I'm also 1 of 2 guys in a 30 person class. I agree with you regarding the catty aspect of the women. I'm completely blind to it, but apparently, "It's not what the teacher, nurse, or student said. It's THE WAY they said it." As guys we get to deal with the looks from male EMT and Paramedic students. |
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| Posted almost 3 years ago IMHO; Sometimes letting people vent is OK, but not when it is stressing you out. If someone complains about another person, ask "what did they say when you brought it to their attention?" Another complaint you might say "let's see how we can fix this" or "what have you tried to fix this?" or, one of my favorites, "can we rephrase that in a way that will make it useful?" A complaint is somebody elses problem until you let them stress you with it. Use phrases to reflect to them ways that THEY can approach the problem and show you can set limits on how much you'll put up with. Watch the results.The wiser people will learn from your statements. Probably the rest will stop dumping on you out of frustration. I hope this helps. Please send me feedback, especially any new phrses you use to turn the problem back on the person trying to make you miserable. Good luck with nursing school and at its worst, like driver's ed, it's worth putting up with to get licensed. Paul |
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| Posted almost 3 years ago I am in a new nursing school myself and I am the oldest woman outside of the only guy who is my class. I am sick of the women bickering and complaining on top of them thinking that things are supposed to be handed to them. However, I just do my work, learn what I am to learn and study on a constant basis. I disipline myself to be a studious nurse so that I will know how to hold myself accountable for all actions that I make. I have heard them to make plans to go outside the chain of command, advised them not to do so as it is out of policy and they are only making things harder for themselves and yet they still do what they do. I pitty them and hope that things will get better for them as time goes on. They will sit and say things about me of which I choose not to hear in most cases. I treat them the way I want to be treated and in the same token I don't run up to them. Stay focused and don't let what they do get you off track. You are there to get graduate and get licensed. Good luck! |
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| Posted almost 3 years ago FYI... First day of classes and complaining continues. |
