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Posted almost 6 years ago

 

When did it become unprofessional to show feeling? I came across this quote today while I was surfing the net over at Code Pink:

"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth."
Benjamin Disraeli

It made me wonder why some people feel the opposite. As nurses, do most of you embrace your emotions or run away from the when you are on the job?

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

There is a difference between running away and suppression. This is kind of an obtuse question. There are a broad range of emotions as we all know. Remaining professional is an important part of being a nurse, and in doing so, we sometimes will suppress certain emotions which may not be appropriate in a clinical setting.

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

Thanks for the response. These emotions may not be appropriate due to how they slow down the clinical process, but sometimes I wonder if a greater amount of empathy or emotion may be what the patient needs. Does anyone else feel this way?

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There's nothing wrong with showing certain emotions in the clinical setting. I had been taking care of a woman in her early 40's who had gone unresponsive at home. Her husband was with her in the ER and we developed a good rapport. She had blown a gasket (my phraseology for aneurysm) and her head was full of blood. A few hours later after her cerebral perfusion scan showed no perfusion, the husband decided to take her off of the vent. Before we did he asked if their 8 year old daughter could come back and say goodbye to her Mom. The vision of that girl standing at the bedside with her father, holding her mother's hand, and then looking at me as if she was confused why I was crying, will live with me forever. I'm not a touchy-feely kinda guy, so to speak, but this tore me up and I saw the family's response to my emotion. The thing about it, at least in the ED, is you have to shake it off quick and walk into the next room and do your job.

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

Thanks RNdude for that eloquent anecdote. There are too many experiences like that in our profession. You're right about the ED and since I don't work in one, this might explain my differing approach. How do people who work in other wards feel about this subject? What about nurses who work in hospices or in nursing homes where death and dying are such regular occurrences?