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Posted almost 5 years ago I was recently called into my DONs ofice because I sent an email to the payroll dept asking about why I did not get payed bonus pay that was promised for picking up an extra shift. Okay so maybe it could have been taken sarcastically and I was miffed when I wrote it because it is not the first time this has happened. Anyway come to find out it was my DONs oversight and she did not forward a msg to payroll that I was approaved for the Bonus. Also my name was on 2 IRs out of 7IRs(not all of them mine) because of med errors and the MAR being inaccurate.. I do Night shift and I missed these errors on my 24hr chart checks. So I received a formal reprimand and have 60 days in a probationary type period and was told I "need extra support" I was also denied getting into a day shift position because of the Repremand. I feel so terrible about all this and having a hard time letting it go. I am told by co workers that I'm a good nurse and not to worry about it. But lately I feel like if I make a mistake I'm in big trouble and its like walking on egg shells. My DON said I should have reported to her instead of payroll and I "went over her head". I did not intend to I am just used to being independent and taking care of things myself. This is a hard trait to break! I wish I could find a new job but I am an LPN and working on my BSN and have no time to change jobs! |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Hang on this too shall pass. Hard times seem to run in rotation and it is just your day. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Let it go- you can't change what happened- you can learn from it... |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago
Kayak has given you some good feedback. You can’t change it. What you can change is how you deal with a similar situation. You seem to be very much aware of the fact that you are “independent”. Sometimes you have to let that go. Especially in this line of work that we are in. I don’t think you should consider changing jobs at this time. The economy is just to unstable for one thing and for another a new job with school would only cause more stress. Women have a much tougher time of letting go of negative thoughts than men do. Women will replay in their heads the negative feed back that they hear. Take this as a learning experience. I am sure that you have learned from this. You are obviously a bright person or you would not have survived in this line of work and you would not have made it into an RN program. Just remind yourself of all of your positives. I bet your manager learned from this as well. Bet she won’t “forget” again to turn in for some to receive bonus pay. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Good advice kaya and cd |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Thanks so much for all the encouragement I guess I will just PROVE myself as a deligent and kind nurse in the next 60 days. this had just been an experience that was humbling and a stab at the serious and dedicated nurse in me! |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago I can understand that. I think that most of us have had soething similar happen to us. Hey, you do not need to prove anything to anyone. You have already proven yourself. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago You only have to look in the mirror as that is the person you have to look up to, I don't think there is any nurse out there that has not had a similar situation , especially if they have any experience. Hang in there this to shall pass and keep the faith.. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago It is okay to get frustrated with this...just remember you are the bigger person. Not worth getting super upset about. But, always stand up for what you know you deserve. You work hard. A good man loves other. A better man loves God. A great man loves God and lives well among others! I miss you daddy!
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Just hang in there and continue working on that BSN. Eventually, if things contiue to be the way they are now at you job, you'll have your degree and have more options. I was an LPN who went back and got my BSN. I ended up leaving the hospital I worked at for 5 years. They still saw me as an LPN and lowballed me on pay. As a friend of mine once said"you are never a hero in your hometown". Good Luck! Claire Claire Kruszka |
