Has anyone met a nasty nurse. One that no matter how kind you try to be to them they are nasty but they smile anyway to your face but they have a knife to your back.  Tells us.

Oh heck yeah!  There is one at work that no matter what you do, she has something to complain about..... and will chew you up right in front of everyone!

I worked with one who needed an audience before she could chew somebody out. Some good people left because of this. There's a time and place for everything. She was in management and on call periodically. She always tried to get another nurse to cover for her and the same one would most of the time. What I never understood was the fact she was downright hateful to this nurse until she wanted something from her.

Yes, yes and yes. I still haven't mastered how to deal with people like that and wish I could say that I have. I guess I take it so personal. I have found that most the time the other nurses feel the same way about a particular person and that helps alot not to take it personally. I have always been the type to put a smile on my face and try and treat people with respect and kindness. I will say though, that I just can not sit by and let someone treat me like sh--.

Just remember that we do not know what might be going on in their personal lives and they need our prayers. Some people are just miserable people no matter what and that is sooo sad in its own right. Can you imagine how sad it must be to come to work and have to feel the need to treat people awful.

One thing I do know and that is that we teach people how to treat us, and if we allow people to abuse us they will!!!!!!!!

Just smile,  grit your teeth, and bite your tongue.  AND be nice. Sugar always catches more flies than vinegar. 

Yes, I can't say her name but she was short, dark hair and NEVER happy about anything in her life.  I think she chose me to take out her miserable life on because I am a happy person.  SO, she nit picked at everything I did until I  wasn't there anymore.  I am so glad I don't have to see her ugly face and ugly attitude ever again.  Unless we meet up at Wal-Mart or something.  Then, I can just barf in my bag that I'll be keeping in my purse until I get out of this area I live in.

sounds exactly like the psycho nurse I worked with!  Maybe they are twins!

Yep, I've met my share of nasty nurses (and Dr's and Techs) in this business. I just get through what I have to get through with them and forget it. They aren't  worth my time or energy to worry about it. But I will say this, just because it still bothers me to this day. When my Grandma was in the hospital last year dying I had a nurse chew me out in front of the other nurses who cared for my Grandma as well as several of our family and friends. She didn't like the way we had decided to handle telling my Grandma what was happening to her. She already knew what the end result was, so in our opinion there was no need to sit in her room full of doom and gloom and dwell on it. What time she had left should be as happy as possible. Well this nurse, who was ALWAYS telling me "I used to be a hospice nurse and this is what should be done......." decided that we should go in there and matter-of-factly tell her she was dying fast, her kidneys are shutting down and you'll be gone in a few days. She told me I was abusing her by not doing it and that I'm being selfish (I took care of my Grandma almost by myself the entire time she had BRCA). Normally I would have told her to get out of my face and leave us alone but it just hit a nerve and instead I flopped down on the bench beside me and bawled while she kept berating me. Two other nurses in the hallway who had heard the whole thing came over and did their best to give her a "job" so she would go away. Finally it worked and they both sat down with me while I cried. They both got in trouble for that. I wish now that I had told her what a nasty B&*%H she was, but I didn't.

emtpixie says ...

Yep, I've met my share of nasty nurses (and Dr's and Techs) in this business. I just get through what I have to get through with them and forget it. They aren't  worth my time or energy to worry about it. But I will say this, just because it still bothers me to this day. When my Grandma was in the hospital last year dying I had a nurse chew me out in front of the other nurses who cared for my Grandma as well as several of our family and friends. She didn't like the way we had decided to handle telling my Grandma what was happening to her. She already knew what the end result was, so in our opinion there was no need to sit in her room full of doom and gloom and dwell on it. What time she had left should be as happy as possible. Well this nurse, who was ALWAYS telling me "I used to be a hospice nurse and this is what should be done......." decided that we should go in there and matter-of-factly tell her she was dying fast, her kidneys are shutting down and you'll be gone in a few days. She told me I was abusing her by not doing it and that I'm being selfish (I took care of my Grandma almost by myself the entire time she had BRCA). Normally I would have told her to get out of my face and leave us alone but it just hit a nerve and instead I flopped down on the bench beside me and bawled while she kept berating me. Two other nurses in the hallway who had heard the whole thing came over and did their best to give her a "job" so she would go away. Finally it worked and they both sat down with me while I cried. They both got in trouble for that. I wish now that I had told her what a nasty B&*%H she was, but I didn't.

emtpixie, you can still sit down and write a letter to administration and tell them what happened.  You'd be doing the other nurses who contend with this nurse a huge favor as well as patients and families.  Not to mention, it would be very cathartic for you. 

Oh yeah, I am sure we all have.The sad thing is they are usually people who are not happy in general and have sad, passionless, empty lives and that carries over to their work life.I would hate to go thru this life angry, bitter and not be happy or joyous.. Hopefully the profession they chose would be a way for them to change their attitude and  change for the better.

dmazment says ...

Address your concerns to the CEO not the DON.  If there is a patient advocacy dept, then send them a copy.

 

I did it today. I personally took copies to the management office and gave it to the personal secretary of the guy that runs these 2 hospitals. I wanted to give it directly to him, but unfortunately he wasn't there. I also dropped a copy off in the office of the chaplain since they are the closest thing to a real pt. advocate these hospitals have. Usually pt. advocacy is handled here by the DON on each unit. Much to my displeasure I ran into the nurse in question getting off of the elevator, that was nearly a bad scene. But I was good, I just kept on walking. Thanks for the suggestion, now we sit back and wait for a response from the hospital.

Mamadawn, I feel for you.  The place that I worked at in NC, I had a knot in my stomach and would feel like puking everytime I went to work when she was there.  She made up rumors about people, one of the nicest LPN's that I ever worked with, she made up a rumor that he was not an LPN but instead was working on a 'stolen license'.  It just so happened that this LPN went to school back in my home town of NJ (New Jersey is a foreign country to those who are NC natives).   He and I knew all the same places, and all the same people (small world).   Eventually, he went to another facility, because of all the gossip.  I could go on and on about the things that she said, and the various good nurses that quit  or were fired over her.  I went to the DON about 6 months before I moved to PA, and had a long conversation about all the gossip coming from 'Jane' (including the gossip about the DON herself), the DON's take was, well she works the shift nobody wants, and she never calls in sick.  Long story short, 'Jane' had been talking dirt about the DON for years, and how incompetent she was....taking stock of the DON's every fault and 'Jane' shared it with some of her board member friends that she gossiped with...the DON is unemployed now!

Ok, funny true thing about 'nasty nurse'.    Yall know those meetings you do around a big table with all your coworkers?   I was at one when nasty nurse was trying to sniffle a sneeze..............and she farted.   You see, its karma.  I keep laughing over this.   It made my freaking week.  For all the nasty nurses out there...........NEVER sneak a sneeze..........a toot could escape.

burnout...is what I saw from a few nurses when working the ER at our local hospital.  They ended up getting me fired for stupid crap.  That's okay though, I was sick of working with mean nurses anyway.  I'll get my RN and then they can't do crap to me.  I'll be on their level.  Oh by the way, the nurse that was so cocky and mean wasn't even a charge nurse or anything.  She was just unhappy with her life I guess

Well, I was the only one stupid enough to laugh out loud.......right after saying  "Dayummmmmmmmm".     You know that thing you did as a kid when you were trying not to laugh in church?  Bingo...........thats it.  I was the other one who got busted for laughing.