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I do no think this will ever end.

Actually nurses flat out eat each other.  They don't care if you're young or older, new or seasoned.  I've had it happen to me several times and I have never done it to anyone.

dmazment says ...

Actually nurses flat out eat each other.  They don't care if you're young or older, new or seasoned.  I've had it happen to me several times and I have never done it to anyone.

I told my boyfriend, nursing is like football, you have to go in there with your defenses up, and game face on, if not, you will get tackled, and maybe foul out of the game.

I'm a seasoned nurse and feel even intimidated by the new grads in my new emloyee orientation.  !   We have new grads with their BSN, havent even taken the nclex........geez, they are brilliant!   They have obviously been given a top notch education in their nursing program.  I would bet $100 <im a cheapskate so this is a huge bet, at the blackjack tables, I stick to the $5 table> this group passes with the 75 minimum questions.  Wow, this isnt like me.......I'm not being mean or defensive......I'm thrilled to have this gang of new grads at my facility! 

Oh, this has for sure happened to me before, in my first year of nursing school- I was eaten on!

But I've learned how to turn in around and I'm not going to put up with any BS like that anymore! I am human and I need dignity.

What ever happened to the golden rule?

dmazment says ...

Actually nurses flat out eat each other.  They don't care if you're young or older, new or seasoned.  I've had it happen to me several times and I have never done it to anyone.

from what i seen, the nurses like this are intimidated.

Deb, your right...............those nurses who eat their coworkers work in packs.........like wolves or jackals......something like that.  My advice to new grads would be 'avoid the crowded areas where the hags sit around the coffee pot talking about 'her hair', or 'did you see the hickey on Zelda's neck?, OOooh, she gonna get terminated because of that.   Do NOT involve yourself in the henhouse.........dont get dragged into petty picking.  I was in a facility where they <evil hens> fancified one of the new grads bumping uglies with a radiology tech in a patient room<it was vacant>.  It wasnt true, at all..............she was a sweet young girl in her mid 20's, a newlywed..........she came to me crying about the false rumor about that situation..........I told her she might need to set things straight with the ones spreading it, or if too scared, go to our supervisor.  Stuff like that is a firing offense. 

dmazment says ...

HA_Nurse2Be says ...

dmazment says ...

Actually nurses flat out eat each other.  They don't care if you're young or older, new or seasoned.  I've had it happen to me several times and I have never done it to anyone.

 

I couldn't agree more with this. Lateral violence is a real problem in nursing and the medical field in general.

 

from what i seen, the nurses like this are intimidated.

Maybe they are HA, but it certainly is not a pleasant situation to be in.  I've seen these kind of nurses ruin other peoples careers and they think nothing of it.

Mmmmm... young.

I am a second courser and was a new nurse at my unit. The nurses practiced 'seniority' and were extremely negative and rude. Because I am a Dentist and we treat our colleagues with utmost respect, I can say that comparatively, nurses are among the unprofessionals of  professionals.

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Can it be a catty female thing?...just wondering.

 I too believe nurses eat their young, it is a jealousy thing a competition thing trying to outdo the other

I've experienced this stuff since nursing school, even from some of my professors.  Most of them were kind enough to warn me that I might be a victim of "hazing" as a new nurse; one of them even said the fact that I am calm and confident (but not cocky) would work against me.

Although I've been a nurse for 3 1/2 yrs, I get crap from a lot of nurses who have been in the field longer, sometimes not much longer but definitely older.  It's frustrating to have to prove yourself over and over again to people who seem to hate you for any number of reasons.  I'm not a huge fan of jumping through hoops, especially when they are aflame and with puddles of pig crap in between them. 

 I heard this all through nursing school and was prepared for it .But I do not understand AT ALL  why people in the same profession can be so crappy to each other. It doesn't make anyone learn better, nor does it make us a better nurse. To say "Well, that's the way I was treated" or "It's always been like that" is completely unacceptable. There is no valid excuse for this pathetic behavior. Other people do take their cues on how to treat us by how we treat each other. Do you think physicians will be more apt to treat us well if they see us treating each other badly? As we make strides to advance our profession and be seen as professionals, it makes it difficult for us to be considered professionals when we behave this way. I have great respect for older, more experienced nurses and look forward to learing a great deal from them, but Do Not, for one second, think that I'm willing to take their crap just because they're stressed or are overworked. We all are stressed and over worked, but all we have for support, who really relate and understand, is each other. I've seen units where nurses don't  work together, and I've seen units where they do work together, and the teamwork concept is far better. (Not sorry- military background) We don't have to be best buds outside of work, but check your attitudes and crappy behavior  at the door. Bottom line- Treat others as you want to be treated. Be Nice!!

I just started in my nursing program last week and after reading all this am wondering if I picked the wrong field.   I spent a few years in the military and you know going in that you will have a rough time for a while, but it all got better once you were out of basic training.  Sounds like nursing is worse than the military basic training abuse.  This is all concerning because I got hired on as a part time employee at the hospital I would like to spend the rest of my clinical career at.   I'd hate to think that another nurse could put my job and career in jeopardy so easily.  I'm wondering if maybe I should just stay in the bar business - at least the creeps there have an excuse - and when the alcohol wears off they often don't even  remember being a butt.  I was totally unaware of the catty behavior that sounds like it's an accepted norm.