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Developing a working relationship w/ your Physician
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| Posted about 5 years ago Hey fellow nurses, did you all know that according to JAMA the 3rd leading cause of death in the US is Medical malpractice, it would probably be number one if it was not for us nurses. We need to hold our heads high when interfacing with doctors. Just because they may have a few more years of medical training, a lot of us nurses who have been in the field 30 years like myself have more experience. You cannot be afraid to speak up. Do not let doctors intimidate us as nurses, we are all the patients have, if we cave it's over for them. I have seen times change over the years between doctors and nurses and I think if you have your ducks in a row when talking to the doctor you should feel confident and stand your ground. I do still run into a few doc's that think they are god. I guess not everything changes. A busy RN is here |
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| Posted almost 6 years ago AbusyRN2go says ... Hey fellow nurses, did you all know that according to JAMA the 3rd leading cause of death in the US is Medical malpractice, it would probably be number one if it was not for us nurses. We need to hold our heads high when interfacing with doctors. Just because they may have a few more years of medical training, a lot of us nurses who have been in the field 30 years like myself have more experience. You cannot be afraid to speak up. Do not let doctors intimidate us as nurses, we are all the patients have, if we cave it's over for them. I have seen times change over the years between doctors and nurses and I think if you have your ducks in a row when talking to the doctor you should feel confident and stand your ground. I do still run into a few doc's that think they are god. I guess not everything changes. I so agree with you. I am not a nurse yet but I am working on it. My mother and father both died from medical malpractice. I want to be a nurse and to have the knowledge so I can be the patient's advocate. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago I truley believe that if you show confidence when speaking to doctors and KNOW what your talkin about you have a better chance of getting the respect you deserve. Doctors are alot like sharks they smell blood in the water, if you are weak and a tiny bit scared they will smell the blood and pounce, hold to your guns and speak with confidence if they interupt, I say "excuse me, I was NOT done yet", that usually works, I did have one doc say "well I am done listening" I responded, okay and I will document that you refused to let me continue giving you report and when the patient has a bad outcome and goes to court, you will be standing their alone! He then replied okay go ahead and finish, and I did. A busy RN is here |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Why do we not have more input on this very important topic that affects each and every one of us every day? A busy RN is here |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago Any Dr. can be a pain in the patoot on any given day. If you present him/her with a problem that needs to be addressed, a question arising from his poor penmanship, or a misguided assumption regarding his patient, always remember you deserve the same respect you give. They put their pants on just like we do....one leg at a time. This is their chosen profession and they make the big bucks for making the final decisions. And you have to double check everything they do, 'cause like it or not, they are human and screw up on a daily basis. After 14 yrs of catching mistakes and pointing out what was overlooked or not heard, I promise they mess up daily. Our responsibility is to be an advocate of quality patient care. It is written nowhere that you have to be a Dr's verbal punching bag. The words, "I know your are not talking to me in that manner" has stopped many a tirade. So has, "listen, like it or not you chose your profession , I cannot make this decision, this is why you make the big bucks and I am poor". But it may go over better when you are over 50. You know whick Dr will fall in line and which you are going to set off. |
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| Posted almost 5 years ago I think that as long as you show that you are "competent" that most drs readliy trust you.. Don't ever pretend to know something.. Clarify it with the dr. It builds better relationships.. Sometimes I have to ask two or three times.. but i would rather ask then do something wrong . there is no room for intimidation. patients could be at risk if we don't suck it up and get past nerves.. I am a new nurse and even though I've stuttered with the best of them when i first started, now i feel like a pro.. I still get nervous but I can't let that stop me from asking questions. even if they are deemed stupid ones. "There are those that look at things the way they are, and ask why? I dream of things that never were, and ask why not."
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| Posted over 4 years ago AbusyRN2go says ... Hey fellow nurses, did you all know that according to JAMA the 3rd leading cause of death in the US is Medical malpractice, it would probably be number one if it was not for us nurses. We need to hold our heads high when interfacing with doctors. Just because they may have a few more years of medical training, a lot of us nurses who have been in the field 30 years like myself have more experience. You cannot be afraid to speak up. Do not let doctors intimidate us as nurses, we are all the patients have, if we cave it's over for them. I have seen times change over the years between doctors and nurses and I think if you have your ducks in a row when talking to the doctor you should feel confident and stand your ground. I do still run into a few doc's that think they are god. I guess not everything changes. So true, especially about holing your head up high and having your ducks in a row. I worked well with my MDs and I'm sure that it had something to do with my being well-spoken, respectful and intelligent about MY field, not staring at the floor but looking him in the eye, feeling confident about me and realizing that we're a team. If the doc thinks he can go it alone, without your being part of the team, he'll learn real quickly, that it's not possible, just like we can't go it alone. It's all in teamwork! |
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| Posted almost 4 years ago If your showing your doctor that your competent and confident in whatever you do then you won't find hard to develop a good relationship w/ him/her unless,if your doctor has a behavioral problem.I know Some doctors knows how to appreciate your performance but,there are others whom doesn't even recognize that you are trying to improve yourself.I experienced working in a physician whom didn't like me at first but,as time goes by she developed trust on me and appreciated me and even proud of me. |
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| Posted almost 4 years ago I will never forget being in LPN school at a clinical and seeing this 1 particular doctor who had a reputation for being the meanest SOB (not shortness of breath) that ever walked the halls. Nurses would literally jump and scramble whenever he came into a room. They gave up thier seats for him and everything was "yes doctor...no doctor...you're absolutely right doctor im so sorry" It was sickening to say the least. I mean they were acting like servants instead of nurses. My teacher pulled us to the side and told us all to NEVER be that way no matter how long we are in the field or how young people thought we were. Now as a working nurse I respect my doctors, but I also let them know you are not above me telling you where to go! Im competent and know my duties. If i disagree with something and I tell them respectfully, and they get snotty with me, thats fine...you do my job then since you know it better than I do OR they hate this one, "im sorry doctor but you made the decision to go to med school, you also wrote this ridiculous order that im following. Im doing my job you want to do yours?" Not all doctors are arrogant,egotistical maniacs but for those that are...you just gotta learn how to deal with them. AND NEVER BE SCARED TO SPEAK YOUR MIND. Just keep it as professional as possible. Remember, if they mess up and you go along with it, thats your license too. |
