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Well, I never had an affair when married, but both my exhusbands did...................maybe I could furnish their personal info?    I still know their social security numbers as well, lol.    I'm on #3 now.................................I always say, I'll never have another divorce but will have someone burried.

Nurses have this stereotyped reputation of being...Slutty?" (i guess thats the word) but one has to understand that alot of that comes from the distortions given to it by movies and the public view of nursing. Long before I went into nursing I remember hearing stories of "women of questionable character being encouraged to either find a honorable husband to make them acceptable or become a teacher or domestic so that some form of social acceptance could be achieved. And I also remember studing in nursing school that when Ms. Nightingale announced to her family her intentions, her sister fainted, her mother was speechless and her father nearly banished her to a finishing school threatening to "restrain her as having lost all of her senses". I myself as a male, was stereotyped by my father as "sissy" when I announced in my senior year of high school of my intentions, and when I brought home the application for nursing school, he went into a rage telling my mother"no son of mine is gonna be a nurse" 

So knowing all this and the social views of people who nurse...a question such as this one on a nursing site, tends to anger me. Nurses, I suppose will always "chatter" among themselves and movies, TV and the like will always portray the "nurse" as the type of person who routinely engages in said behavior. But you don't see other professional sites such as lawyers and M.D.'s on webpages even bringing forth such a topic. So as long as nurses engage is such behavior, we ourselves perpetuate the myth that part of being a nurse also includes this behavior. I'm not saying that the other professions don't engage and do that, but on the sites that are supposed to show professionalism and be expected to be recieved as such, why would such a question be purposed?

We as nurses, must start reflecting the image of professionals and stop the images of the past as permiscous angels in white which the society at large sees us. Movie images of the heavily made. up, short skirted ,dimwitted high heeled taloned nurses must stop, and we can do it. The hollywood images of lawyers and doctors show them as true pros, but nurses tend to support the images and never raise a voice in protest....WHY? well maybe because WE ACTUALLT SEE OURSELVES IN THAT IMAGE...COULD THIS BE TRUE? Yes doctors and lawyers have affairs..at work even..(do you watch scrubs or ER?) but on professional web sites they don't include it in professional dialog..WHY?...BECAUSE IT DOESN'T BELONG THERE..ITS NOT PROFESSIONAL UNLESS YOUR IN THAT PROFESSION, and very few nurses I know street walk....... thanx

Well I do believe in karmic relationships. If there is no karma there would not be a relationship. But if you have an affair and you feel that you could not avoid it, please try your best not to let your spouse knows about it.  Try to miniize the suffering as much as you can.  When the karma is severed, you will be parted automatically.  But its best to cut the cord of karmic ribbon by staying faithful to your spouse and if the relationship is unworkable, then seek a divorce first.

Please do not feel guilty either -- feeling guilty does not help you.

the old saying is YOU DON"T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT, if thats too strong an answr try having that affair...................

This is the most ridiculous topic I have ever heard of.   Maybe you are just trying to talk someone out of having an affair.  That would be good.   Affairs are bad...whether or not it is in a hospital setting or not.  Especially someone you work with.  And, for the record, no I have never had an affair with someone I work with.

My first husband had numerous affairs, and it really hurt. So, I feel that out of respect for the person you're married to, an affair just aint right.

Over the yeras of being a nurse, the harshest lesson I learned was to not date someone you work with. I did that once, and it was a disaster.I vowed never to attempt that again. The sad part was, at first I was glad I met this guy at work, and not at a nightclub. It was actually way worse.

When my first marriage ended I was heartsick. I was 26, and had a 2 year old child. For about 2 years, out of anger, I refused to get attached to anyone for fear of being hurt again.It was during this time that I was at the utmost of confusion. I made alot of mistakes, and paid dearly with my self-esteem and my heart.

I guess what I'm trying to say , is affairs are wrong, and dating at work is always a bad idea.

You gotta ask...what is the definition of "affair"? Does it have to be physical? Could you emotionally cheat on someone (like thinking of cheating, but not actually going through with it or striking  up a friendship that is too flirtatious)?

why would anyone want to start a topic like this anyway????

Anonymous says ...

I don't think online stuff is really "cheating," as there is no physical contact... But if two people post "I Love You" comments for each other constantly, I think that's an "Affair" of sorts!

 

HERE IS A QUESTION..........CAN ANYBODY ANSWER THIS?

"Ok who said  this:   " I swear I did not have deponent sex with that woman"    I heard an ER doc say troponin when I had taken my mom to the ER for chest pain.........for a second, I thought I had the answer to 'what is deponent'.   I was in nursing school, and thought I had he definition but it was just my mother's cardiac enzymes............dang

There are two types of affairs; mental (emotional) and physical. I have had several mental affairs over the years but I was close enough to the female (I am male) to set rules. I had a total of three non physical affairs. They were non intentional in the beginning but were much needed. They filled a void in my life when my wife and I were in much disagreement and weren’t talking about everything we need to. My partners for the mental affairs were in the same shape so we both got our needs met. One was a close call though. A matter of an hour and we would have went physical.

As far as physical; I have been married for 23 years total and never had a physical affair. My wife and I now have been married 12 years and I can’t fathom anyone touching the romance we have in the bedroom. I work with a lot of cute good looking ladies but my wife is hot to me.

Are mental affairs considered affairs? Yes

I believe if it takes time from your spouse and your relationship with her it is considered an affair. Was I wrong in having a non physical affair? Sure!  Would I do it again? I don’t know. Will I ever have a physical affair on my wife? No!

u guys are silly:)

I have been married for 16 years I have there are two guy sat work hitting on me tellling me they thinks I am beautiful and sexy and I would be lying if I said it didnt make me feel good.  And there are times I think about what it would be like to just do them.  i would never do it, because I love my husband and would never want to hurt him and if the tables were turned and my husband cheated on me, I would not give him another chance.

Infidelity has got to be one of, if not the biggest violation of trust that a person could impose on their significant other.  I'm sure there are many rationalizations that would justify such an act, but if a person is honest with themself, I doubt that he/she could stand for being betrayed in such a way.  Don't even entertain the thought.  If you follow through with it, you have sacrificed your integrity.  Without integrity you are nothing.

nope I have never had a affair, but I am guilty of flirting on occasion

Anonymous says ...

Yep I had a affair not with someone I worked with, but I tell you what ,I did'nt feel bad at all . He cheated on me first and I'm a eye for a eye type person. But he never found out and we are still together.

 

it is kind of like you own a cadilac your happy driving most of the time although you like to take a camaro out for a rodeo ride every once in a while right?