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My husband's neice married a man, single parent about 3 years ago..........he had an 8 yr old son.  I'll call her 'Brandy', the neice, is 28 years old I think.   I feel so sorry for that boy and each time I have taken up for him in front of his dad and new step mom, a huge family verbal bashing occurs, mostly me.   Brandy has had 2 daughters in the past 3 years herself, when 'Cody.......fictional name here too' is around he is used as baby sitter, diaper changer and general slave.   I believe in disciplining children myself, I always told my own children they will never be too big or too tall for an ass whoopin by me; now both my kids have outgrown me for the past 10 years or so.   These might seem like trivial things, but I have never been around my husbands neice without her verablly abusing that kid.   That crew is 'white trash'.   They are too lazy to work, the dad hasnt been employed for over 1.5 yrs.   I hate the thought that those kids are going to grow up thinking its normal for the 'dad' to be a couch potato instead of working.   Cody's birthday and his two sisters were all born mid October.............and the they invited my husband and I to go to the girl's birtday party and we went.   When we got there, we found it was also 'Cody's birthday and they didnt celebrate that kid's birthday or get him a dang thing for his birthday.   I've noticed the boy had gained a huge amount of weight in the last 6 monthes.  When I found out it was his birthday too <he was 10 yrs old, geezus>, I loudly said  'geez Brandy why in the heck didnt you tell anyof us it was his birthday too'....................well, my sister in law .<Brandy's mom'> was furious with me. for asking out loud why Brandy wouldnt do anything for that 'brat'..........and the kid was right there.   I got 2 of my other neirces, we went to Walmart, bought him a card and a couple of gifts and then went back to that awful kiddy birthday party.   I gave him a card with $25, and the neices got him a card with about $10.   When we got back.........we gave him our gifts, he said thanks and he had tears running down his cheeks.   After leaving the room for a minute one of the neices who went to Walmart with me said that Brandy took his birthday money, I asked why and he said "my dad said we have to save my birthday money for our trip to Disney this coming spring'.    So here I go making another issue and told Brandy and her unemployed dad that 'this is Cody's birthday gift from us, you'll have to get a job and save for Disney'.    My mother in law came up this past weekend and said that Brandy, her deadbeat husband and the baby girls went to Disney and didnt' take Cody.  I've seen the dad chew that kid out and embarrass him in front of a house full of people.   That kid has NO self esteem.   Kids like this one grow up on drugs, in jail, etc.    He's a nice kid, but the more we're nicer to the kid............the kid gets a fearful look in his eyes like a silent message that we're going to get him in trouble for just being nice to him.   Should I but out?   My husband and other sister in law said I need to butt out.    What if this kid ends up as the next Ted Bundy or something?    Well..............this is an anonymous thread because its best for me this way.

If you believe the child is in physical danger, or being neglected, call Child Protective Services.  You can report anonymously.  You will not be legally liable if you truly believe a danger exists.

Put a call in, the least they can do is investigate and take it from there.  No child should have to be treated like a nobody.  What the fuck is wrong with people?  If they cannot take care of a kid there are plenty of options...that is what is wrong with this world, no one cares its all about me me me. 

And how the hell are they going to Disney?  Dead beat doesnt work, how can they swing that for 3 kids and 2 adults.

I also think that was so sweet how you all went to get him birthday presents, and how touched he was by that.  At least he knows someone cares about him.  My heart breaks for him.

PLEASE make the call and get this looked into.  And please keep me updated,

unfortunately we cant enforce lowlife scum bags from not having kids.  karams a bitch and what goes around comes around, they sound like true american white trash and its the kids who suffer.  maybe if more people got involved things would change, but everyone is too afraid to open thier mouths.  i really hope you called child protective services.

this past week, did an anonymous call to dfacs.  Gave them the whole kit and kabootle, and told told them that in the home, there are 4 adults who chain smoke in the home and there are 2 toddlers who have asthma, and 1 of those babies was born with a heart defect.    I dont know if anybody from the state showed up to check on the kids......no news.   This is horrible..........but I hope the white trash couple get in big crap trouble.   I can call them white trash because I'm related to them  :(

If you feel something is happening, then you owe it to the child to call for help.  He can't do it himself.  If they do these things in front of others, I can only imagine what they do when nobody is around.  I would go with your gut instinct and be the child's voice.   With all that you said, I would have to agree.  There is always the chance that CPS may go and feel that they don't have enough to go on the first time, but if they get enough calls, they will dig deeper.  We had someone come speak at one of my nursing classes and that is what they said.  But they said do call if you suspect something.  

Ok, the report was done by me, over a couple of weeks ago, they did not report my name and I  told defacs I didnt want my name mentioned, they promised to say that my identity was safe, but they said, they'll probably blame you anyhow.  I had to give them dates, times, circumstances.......stuff like that.   They were pretty upset that they smoke in the car with windows rolled up knowing that baby was born with a heart defect.   Yup, my name is Mud.............but my concience is clear.   I just wish they were better people.   Oh yeah............thanks, yall told me what I knew the whole time.   A few weeks ago, I had told my husband that the babies were neglected and the authorities had to be called, nobody in the family will do anything.  I get yelled at when I point to the bums that those kids are being hurt by smoke.   They all jump on me and say read an article that smoking hasnt really been proven to cause cancer!    I asked if I could read it, they said they lost it!   I thought they were going to hit me once when I told them that by smoking around the babies they are endangering the kids, especially the youngest baby who had the heart defect and there is a possiblity that defacs could be called in and if that happened the kids could be taken away.  Yup, I had to duck.

I have to agree with the person who posted and said that as a registered nurse we are held to higher standard than the rest of the community.  Child abuse has to stop and if you know about it, it is your duty to report it. How will you feel if later on something very bad happened to the boy and you had a chance to prevent it.  Do not let this boy suffer any longer.

My God, it is only common sense to do something about it.

Especially if you are a nurse.

Any update on this???  I'm curious to know....but I think it's a no brainer that something needed to be done whether you're a nurse or not!