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Child support ?
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| Posted almost 4 years ago J9RN2010 says ...
I was in Vegas last month and that is SOOO true. |
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| Posted almost 4 years ago Surf_98 says ...
I only wish more men took there responsiblity like you. My ex can't even pay the 50/mnth he is ordered (was in prison for beating me at time of order) much less help pay for braces (which my daughter needs) or clothes or heck school supplies. My ex went so far as to quit his job and work for someone who will pay him partly under the table. says he only makes this much on taxes and such but then pays him the rest under the table. such a selfish person. My daughter is 13 and refuses to speak to her dad, she told him if he wanted to speak with her then he had to stop drinking and stop doing drugs, his comment back to her was "how would you even know if i stopped or not, I could just tell you I stopped". My little angel said 1st because I know how you act when your high or been drinking and 2nd because you just told me you wouldnt stop so have a nice lonely life dad good bye..... And No i did not put that into her head, that is one thing i never do, i never ever talk bad about my childrens dad infront of them or even if there is anyway it will get back to them... she is a very smart independent young lady, she has the right to decide she does not want that (alcohol and drugs) in her life or people who do them in her life... I just pray her father will grow up and realize how much his actions are hurting his daughter.... "Seek freedom and become captive of your desires, seek discipline and find your liberty." Frank Herbert |
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| Posted almost 4 years ago I haven't received a dime, for child support. I am a proud mother of three beautyful daughter. I currently live in Los Angeles California. I've worked as a heathecare provider for almost 10 years. I am curently in school to pursue my MSN in nursing, and wants to work as a pediactric nurse, in public health. |
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| Posted over 3 years ago I live in IL & I filled out my child support request about 6 months ago and havent received anything. Not even a letter telling me I wasnt getting anything. After trying to call and being placed on hold for hours at a time, I just decided that sometimes you cant worry about why the other person is not stepping up to the plate. I'm upset about it, but I just have to do what I have to do to take care of my son; even if that means taken on a responsibility that should be shared by two people. If it doesnt kill me it will only make me stronger. |
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| Posted over 3 years ago Jeannie says ...
Im so glad those days are over for me. After my younger kid turned 18 the turd, aka ex hubby, called to gloat because he was out of the child support business at that time. He said "aren't you gonna miss that money?" I dont know how much others got, my kids's dad at that time was a Major in the USAF, and he was paying about $850/month. Wanna know was will absolutely piss the ex off? He was very disappointed I didnt need child support for housing or food or stuff like that. For each kids that was getting close to driving age, I socked away their child support money for a car down payment, and paid their insurance on the car. The best thing anybody, especally women, can do is get financially independent so you dont have to use child support for any household needs. Thanks to getting my education <THANK YOU PUBLIC SCHOOL, UGA> my salary funded the housing, food, etc. GET YOUR FINANCES IN CHECK SO YOU DONT NEED IT! Take the jerks money because that money is for the childs support, and I loved being able to do something to give them a safe mode of transportation when the time came. Do a budget, figure out what you absolutely need, not YOU, the kids. The child support check also purchased a cheap computer which saved me from taking them to the library for school projects. More advice............Im a broken record: Get to where you dont have to have a child support check to survive. Survive with your own working efforts and you 'll feel great about yourself. I also cant stand it when people used their child supprt check to buy booze, cigerettes, and lotto tickets. Good luck all. One day that magical day will come when you dont have to go to anymore parent teacher conferences and award ceremonies...........I love my kids and I was spoiled because they were exceptional students <son had the highest gpa and SAT score of his graduating class>, but when I didnt have to go to them things I felt like I was paroled from a maximum security penetentiary. Ok, Im a bad mom..........I also have pictures of my dogs in my wallet............more of them than my younguns! Good luck Angie We only have one heart, take care of it! Angie |
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| Posted over 3 years ago Angie - You are a NORMAL mother. We love our kids, but our dogs are just so much easier.... HAHA! I completely agree with you about getting on your feet and supporting your own kids. That way, when the child support does come, it can be used for those less necessary, "convenient" items. My ex is ordered to pay $500 a month, I get $0. Every 6-12 months I get a surprise lump sum in my account (to keep himself out of jail). I am never expecting it, but when it comes my son gets some new clothes and shoes (he gets these anyway but these times he get higher priced "trendy" items), and the rest gets put away for the future. There was a time when I relied upon that check (and it never came). It is such a good feeling to know that you can provide for your kids, without praying for that check to appear. |
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| Posted over 3 years ago I recieve child support too! I finally get enough to make a difference! i started off getting $67/wkly then it dropped to $5.77/wkly because he was unemployed! What kind of shit is that? In NYS it's 17% for 1 child! I got that 4 over a yr or so. Then i learned from my daughter that he was working again, so i had to take him back to court! He didn't show up the 1st time, so it was reschedule. The 2nd time he showed and wanted me dismiss the case. I didn't of course! He was very upset with me but oh well,1 i had to do what a mother have to do! He ended up having to pay $97/wkly. It stopped 4 a minute but then it went up to $122.40 /wkly. My daughter is 19 now and in college, so it helped this yr with that & her a used car! He filed taxes and she got a nice chunk of that! So it's good to take them for support, if they are not willing to help u! His mother encouraged me to take him! "LADIES FROM MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE! IF A MOTHER TELLS YOU SOMETHING ABOUT THEIR SONS!!!! TAKE THERE ADVICE!! THEY KNOW THEIR TAKING ABOUT!!!!!!!!!!!!! TWO MOTHERS TOLD ME ABOUT THEIR SONS AND THEY WERE RIGHT!" :) |
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| Posted over 3 years ago I think the take home lesson here is .... Be very careful who you procreate with.... Man will not be free until the last lawyer is strangled with the entrails of the last priest. With apologies to Voltaire |
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| Posted over 3 years ago Couldn't have said it better myself, alphamale. I love my children with my whole heart and soul, but I seriously wish that I would have chosen a better father for them. Of course I realize children with a different man would not be the same children I have now, but I can't help but think I did them a disservice by choosing the man that I did to be their father. No matter I guess, I will beg, borrow, steal if I have to in order to care for them, and luckily for all of us we now have a wonderful man in our lives who is a hard worker, kind, considerate, loving and a wonderful father for them. ~ Laugh as much as you breath and love as long as you live ~ |
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| Posted over 3 years ago Yes, but how do we choose who we fall in love with? Jeannie |
