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Posted over 5 years ago I'm wanting to know thoughts or advice whaen you can't trust anyone at work. I feel I can't talk to any supervisor at work even to vent without them running and telling the person and/or everyone what I said. I say this because I have been put into this situation. I had a problem with a nurse and was felt I was being treated very unfairly (even co-workers brought this to my attention without me saying anything). Well I went to my ADON to discuss the issue and try to get some resolution. She then turned right around after I left her office and told the nurse everything I said. Needless to say this nurse treated me awful for weeks personally seeking me out. Now no matter what the problem is I refuse to say anything. This is not the first time this has happened to me in this facility. What do you do when you can't even trust your bosses? |
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| Posted over 5 years ago This has happened to me too many times. Nurses do not make good managers. Every nurse manager should be required to take managment classes before ever being allowed to manage anything more than paper. I wish I had an answer for you but I don't. Have you tried going first to the nurse you had problems with? |
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| Posted over 5 years ago cdnurse said: I have tried many times but all I get is attitude or completely blown off. I just wish we could all act like adults! |
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| Posted over 5 years ago Yes, I have seen this too. Unfortuatley it seems contagious. I work in a hospital now, but only part time and night shift. You might find less of this on night shift, I don;t know why. I have often thought we could treat each other with the same ethics as is expected with our pts. Show each other a little more appriciation and respect. After all we are trying to do the same thing. It is important to vent, you go ahead and vent right here, I know I have. I don't talk to my boss much, never about other employees unless it's cutos for an evaluation and would not vent to her. Maybe I am just jadded, this is not advise, just an observation and opinion. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago yes, this happens all the time. I don't talk to alot of people at work. And I don't tell my personal business to my co-workers. Gossip is rampant in LTC facilities and even hospitals. I try to do the best job I can and not get involved in all the drama. I just want to go to work, do my job and go home. I'm not there to make friends. Women can be so catty sometimes. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago charlita, you are so right! MEOOOOW! Why can't women work together without going for the jugular? I had an incident today with my Administrator, who is listening to gossip. She should put a stop to the gossip, but then I guess she wouldn't have her "informants"? I would much rather work for a man |
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| Posted over 5 years ago I think if you have a problem with one of your coworkers, then the first thing you should do is go directly to the source and find out why. Even if you know they will give attitude, handle yourself like the adult and know that you handled the situation well. If still nothing, and you already know your manager won't do anything, you can go higher in the chain of command or not care. I try to just stay away from the negative people because sometimes that is just who they are, once I know that...I don't care. I do my job and let them do theirs. The "chip" is on them and on occassion, no matter what you do, nothing will change that. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago I agree with ctrum6414, Always go to the person first, If you can't work out a resolution and it is affecting your job performance go to ADON, DON, Adminstrator follow the chain of command. Do not gossip or vent it will backfire every time.What get's me through those situation is knowing that not everybody likes me and I don't like everybody, but I will do my job. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago anewcom said: ANEWCOM - I have been there (here, righ now really). I don't work in the hospital environment. There are going to be different personalties no matter where you go. Unfortunately, you're stuck with seeing this person everyday at work. I work with this particular individual who has treated me with disrespect by raising her voice when clearly, she is blowing the situation out of proportion. She has been here 7 years; I have been here for 2. The problem is not me, it's her. I stuck up for myself the first time she blew up. She threw a fit two more times after that for piddly reasons, I just blow her off now. I am still civil with her; I would not say that I'm 'fake' with her. I still have to see and work with this person each day. Hang in there. Her/their time will come. I kept this to myself. I know that she has shared our differences with other co-workers but I don't let it bother me. My co-workers can draw their own conclusion about the type of person that I am if gossip doesn't get the best of them. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago ANEWCOM - I would like to add one more thing. Like others have suggested, try going to the source first. Ask her point blank if she has a problem with you. I already tried that (reasoning) in my situation (I choose to leave mgmt out of it) but some people just don't have a clue that they just need to chill out. I'm done. I'm not wasting any more time or energy over ONE problematic individual. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago arual4 said: I went to explain the situation to the ADON to get advice not to gossip but they just so happen to be friends which I didn't realize at the time. Even if I would have known isin't there confidentiality rules in any work place when you go to the boss. I now just keep doing my job like always and don't let people get to me..well I try. The sad thing is that my ADON has never had my back even when the Director has said i'm one of her best aides. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago The person the issue is with is the charge nurse on that hall. Go figure. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago This will be ongoing. When there's alot of women on the unit there will be cat fights and spats. You worry about you. There' s always other jobs. Personalities will conflict. Colleen |
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| Posted over 5 years ago anewcom, I agree with sugar...speaking from experience...historically speaking women are a bitch to work with...the pettiness never ends, but it's usually because we are: 1) never wrong, 2) insecure, 3) preoccupied, 4) premenstrual, 5) perimenopausal, ...the list goes on and on. It sounds as if you've tried to rectify things and used the proper resources. You know well that there are other jobs available, and you may be better for going while the getting is good. Don't give them enough time to look for/make-up an excuse to terminate. You'll be much happier once you've left the poisonous surroundings. Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, worn out and screaming "Woo-hoo"!!! |
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| Posted over 5 years ago I say go to the Director, if the situation esculates to where you can not do your job effectively. If not try not to let it bother you..I know easier said than done. But all of us have been through it. Deal with it management wise or possibly go elsewhere like a different unit or hospital all together. i hate to hear about people getting mistreated because of trivial issues. Good Luck to ya |
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| Posted over 5 years ago anewcom said: I have been in your situation too. This happened back in May of this year. I have been working for this company for two years now and this girl has been there for not even a year yet. She gave me this message that she was better then anyone but I did not say anything to her but do my job. One day in May another one of my coworkers told me that there was a rumor about me, that I was not a team player. I thought that was funny and asked who was saying this and this coworker said that this person was saying it. I was shocked and went to my DNS about it. I got moved off of that hall because they believed her over me. I was upset about it but just did my work. We had to go and talk with the DNS at the same time. Everything after that was going fine and then I heard that she was doing the rumors again. That I should not be able to work on the skilled halls I was shocked again and went to my boss. What happen again is I was the one that got moved and she got to stay on that hall. I do not miss working with her but I have to see her face and it hurts because I never did a thing to her and now look at it. She is the one that is not a team player, she does not answer call lights, she likes to gossip behind your back, and she is rough on the patients. So I know how you feel, I have been in your shoes but my advise would be go to the administrator and if she does not do anything about it then you go higher then them, like your state board. |
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| Posted over 5 years ago I had to deal with a worker who was the same way and said things I didn't say. I got dragged into the DNS office and had to explain myself. Well in the end the DNS took my side. To make a long story short. We also had another CNA who was not a teamplayer and was terrible to the residents and it took forever for them to let her go. She threatened another co-worker and it was over. Try with the supervisor. Keep your nose clean. Hold onto your dreams. You would make a great nurse. You care. Colleen |
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| Posted over 5 years ago I know this might seem like elementary advice but I genuninely believe in the age-old principles, such as "Treat others at you wish to be treated" and the idea that working hard will pay off. I go to work with the idea that I am there to work and not to make friends, but I am still FRIENDLY to everybody. If you are doing your job well and treaing others with repsect you will get the same in return. They will have to place to put you in because there is nothing for them to complain about you! |
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| Posted over 5 years ago PiitNurse. i wish that was true in all cases, however it is not. Some people are just mean for no reason, and will say or do things that are or are not true. I'm not saying go to their level, but I do think people should stick up for themselves and not let people treat them poorly. No one has the right to belittle another person or do whatever they might do. If you need to go to the top of the chain then do so to take care of the situation and yourself. |
