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Hey Everyone


Well its me again - the one who feels hopeless in Mississippi.  As the subject line reads - I just feel like giving up on trying to get into the nursing field.  I am honestly to the point of tears.  If any of you reading this has read my other posts regarding the issues I have been having with the CC I was attending you know what has been going on.  I have been battling it out with this CC for what seems like forever to get the financial aid straightened out - but have not been successful.  Now they have completely frozen my records and won't forward my transcript to any other CC so that I can transfer and continue my education.  I honestly don't have any more fight in me.  What is sad is that I have worked hard to make it this far and now I feel like I have hit a brick wall.  No other CC will let me register without a transcript from the CC I was attending.  I know I could contact the state board of education regarding this but really what good would it do.  The CC I was attending is a well respected college - so even if I did that I would probably be fighting a loosing battle.  Part of me just wants to say forget it and work in a factory the rest of my life - the other part of me wants to kick butt and not give up the fight.  I really want to be a nurse - but at this point I don't know what else there is I can do.  Any ideas?

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I haven't seen your posts previously:  what is the issue you have having with your financial aid office?

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Did they freeze the records due to financial reasons? If so, try to work out a payment plan. As a lawyer I have done that for lots of friends - something can usually be worked out, and lots of money is saved. For example, if you owe, say, $20,000, the creditor would probably settle for $15,000 (just a guess) and monthly payments. you need an attorney licensed to practice in your state. Or, contact them yourself and negotiate. With a couple of letters and phone calls, you may get good results.


Other than a debt, I can't imagine what right they would have to freeze records - if they don't have a legitimate reason, sounds like a potential discrimination suit.

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CaptainEricRN says ...



Did they freeze the records due to financial reasons? If so, try to work out a payment plan. As a lawyer I have done that for lots of friends - something can usually be worked out, and lots of money is saved. For example, if you owe, say, $20,000, the creditor would probably settle for $15,000 (just a guess) and monthly payments. you need an attorney licensed to practice in your state. Or, contact them yourself and negotiate. With a couple of letters and phone calls, you may get good results.


Other than a debt, I can't imagine what right they would have to freeze records - if they don't have a legitimate reason, sounds like a potential discrimination suit.



She may have exceeded the limits for financial aid in her area.  Without proof of satisfactory progress they will not give you more financial aid.


She may also have piddly things like unpaid parking tickets or library fines.  I run into that where I teach all the time.

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You're right - I've seen those ridiculous things too! But with a little pressure they might at least agree to release the transcripts.


Most institutions would rather give in a little rather than start paying their legal department to fend off a suit.

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Depends on how much she owes.


If it's a small amount, no lawyer will take her case--he'll advise her to pay up.


If it's a big amount the institution will fight it because they can cause themselve more problems if she transfers somewhere else and gets financial aid she shouldn't get.


There are students who are professionals at milking the financial aid system.  Not saying this girl is doing that, not at all!  But it happens, and that's why financial aid departments can be so sticky at times.

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Theala - first to address your statement as to how much I owe - $704.21.  As for milking the financial aid system - I don't feel that is what I have done - although there are probably some that think differently.  And to add to that - I have known "students" that have milked the financial aid system for thousands.


It is really a long story to try to explain this issue - basically it all boiled down to not meeting the Academic Standard in which to receive financial assistance.  This was not based on my grades - as I was on the President's List - it was because I had withdrawn from too many classes over a period of time.  I know I am at fault for withdrawing - for what ever reason.  But at the time that I withdrew I was sick and did not know what was wrong with me - neither did the doctors I was going to.  After I began to get better - I contacted the financial aid department at this CC and explained my situation as to why I had withdrawn so much.  The director was gracious enough to work with me and granted me an appeal to return this past Spring semester on the grounds that I enrolled as a full time student and kept my grades up.  I did this - I registered for my classes, worked hard, maintained good grades and was even on the President's List at the end of the semester.  I took 15 hrs during that semester - which was very hard since I work full time also.  When it came time to register for summer semester - I got my ducks in a row - checked into the courses that I needed and registered.  I had questions regarding a letter I had received from the financial aid department and attempted to contact the director - but could not get up with him.  Therefore I talked to his assistant - she assured me that I had nothing to worry about that I was on the right track and to go ahead and register for the semester.  I was again receiving financial aid assistance.  However, after the semester started working more hours and I did realize that summer semesters on a faster pace that fall and spring semesters.  The courses I was taking were tough and very important courses to take in order to get into a nursing program.  Unfortunately I became overwhelmed with everything and could not handle it.  I talked to the financial aid director, who informed me that I was not even supposed to be getting financial aid for the summer, and told him about my situation.  At this time he informed me that I was not meeting the standard requirements and that I would no longer be able to get financial aid through this CC.  If that was the situation - why wasn't I told that from the beginning?  If I needed more hours to possibly help meet the standard requirements to get aid - why wasn't I advised of this?  I felt like I had worked hard for nothing.  So since I had already started the courses and used part of the aid to get books and such - what I had used - they are saying I have to pay back.  Until I do - my records are basically "frozen" until paid.


SORRY SO LONG.

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I am a RN working for Fresenius doing dialysis at a Texas prison (here's some social medicine for sure but that is a different topic). The Patient Care Technicians for Fresenius get up to $5,000.00 per school year to obtain their first RN (in other words they won't pay for me to get a BSN).


Fresenius, and probably DaVita and RCG and the rest, are willing to train their techs. No Sundays, no nights.


Captain Eric is right - if it is a money issue where you owe the school work out some payment plan. They will probably want you to sign a contract to pay the amount. And pay them like you say you will - even if it means missing beans or keeping the lights off. Otherwise most other schools will probably not admit you and can you see why?


Good luck.

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(((Sandra)))   Don't give up, look how far you have come!  This is just a minor setback. 


Call the CC and make a payment plan for the 700 owed.  Once it's paid you can move on and it will be a learning experience. 


I am not in a nursing program yet.......I am sure there will be situations/events that will push you to the limit  - you need to rise above, rationalize, move forward, and learn from every situation, dont let things hold you back, find a way to work with or around them and keep on keeping on.  You can do this, if you want this bad enough you can do it. 


Hang in there Sandra!


Love, Shell


 


 


 

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soswalt said:   Part of me just wants to say forget it and work in a factory the rest of my life - the other part of me wants to kick butt and not give up the fight.


 


I mean this in the most compassionate and empathetic way.  Aside from loving to work with people and accepting the challenge, I am just now going into nursing at the age of 52 because of the opportunites.  I didn't see working in a factory for the rest of my life as a viable option considering that the US is no longer an industrialized nation.  I've read on here and heard in the media that the economy has put a damper on nursing opportunities too, but I think that will be short lived now that the "boomers" are getting up there.  I just want to offer some encouragement too.  Just like Shell said, you hate to give up all the hard work and energy you've put into it up until now.  It would be a shame to quit when you are just shy of rounding that bend.  Discouragement won't stop you from reaching your goals, but quitting now will. Remember; you can do anything for one day.  If you're always focused on today, tomorrow never comes.  You eat an elephant one bite at a time. 


Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans ~ John Lennon

Scott

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Theala is right - to a point - I do that kind of "small amount" case for free (for friends) and it only takes one lawyer's letter and a phone call or two .


Large cases will be fought or not, depending on the estimated amount their legal staff must expend to fight it. I know, I was a personal injury attorney, and all organizations must play that game, including educational institutions. BUT of course she would have to pay the lawyer!


But this is around $700, and I was just hoping she had a lawyer friend who would do it pro bono. I'll bet for that amount they would agree to a reduction in debt and a payment plan - at least enough to get the records released. If she was in NJ I could do it myself. she needs a MS lawyer.

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I just want to add into this discussion~~you need to make arrangements with the college to pay  what ever needs paid.  Almost every college I know will freeze and hold your grades if you owe money to financial aid.  You also can't schedule new classes.  Were you taking all your pre-reqs for nursing or where you taking classes that  would not have worked for a ADN or BSN?  I don't believe that anyone thinks you were milking the system but they do look @ how long you have been in school and you can't take 4 years to get a ADN.  I had a friend that was taking classes toward her Assoicates degree and had been in a diploma program.  SHe had failed out of the diploma program (clinically) after almost 2 years.  After she had transferred what she could she was in the middle of the semester for her associates and was called into the financial aid office and told that she could get anymore financial aid because she was into her 3rd year of a Associates so she switched to a BSN which is 4 years so she got the financial aid.  She will not be continuing on after this semester for her BSN but will have her Associates.  Ethical?  Well probably not but she got around the system.


You need to take action and not be afraid to do what ever it takes to move on.  Don't just set around waiting for something to happen.  Nothing will happen by itself.  Good Luck to you and I hope you can get everything straightened out.


~~ Cheryl~~


Our service to others is the rent we pay while here on earth!!

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Theala - first to address your statement as to how much I owe - $704.21.  As for milking the financial aid system - I don't feel that is what I have done - although there are probably some that think differently.  And to add to that - I have known "students" that have milked the financial aid system for thousands.


It is really a long story to try to explain this issue - basically it all boiled down to not meeting the Academic Standard in which to receive financial assistance.  This was not based on my grades - as I was on the President's List - it was because I had withdrawn from too many classes over a period of time.  I know I am at fault for withdrawing - for what ever reason.  But at the time that I withdrew I was sick and did not know what was wrong with me - neither did the doctors I was going to.  After I began to get better - I contacted the financial aid department at this CC and explained my situation as to why I had withdrawn so much.  The director was gracious enough to work with me and granted me an appeal to return this past Spring semester on the grounds that I enrolled as a full time student and kept my grades up.  I did this - I registered for my classes, worked hard, maintained good grades and was even on the President's List at the end of the semester.  I took 15 hrs during that semester - which was very hard since I work full time also.  When it came time to register for summer semester - I got my ducks in a row - checked into the courses that I needed and registered.  I had questions regarding a letter I had received from the financial aid department and attempted to contact the director - but could not get up with him.  Therefore I talked to his assistant - she assured me that I had nothing to worry about that I was on the right track and to go ahead and register for the semester.  I was again receiving financial aid assistance.  However, after the semester started working more hours and I did realize that summer semesters on a faster pace that fall and spring semesters.  The courses I was taking were tough and very important courses to take in order to get into a nursing program.  Unfortunately I became overwhelmed with everything and could not handle it.  I talked to the financial aid director, who informed me that I was not even supposed to be getting financial aid for the summer, and told him about my situation.  At this time he informed me that I was not meeting the standard requirements and that I would no longer be able to get financial aid through this CC.  If that was the situation - why wasn't I told that from the beginning?  If I needed more hours to possibly help meet the standard requirements to get aid - why wasn't I advised of this?  I felt like I had worked hard for nothing.  So since I had already started the courses and used part of the aid to get books and such - what I had used - they are saying I have to pay back.  Until I do - my records are basically "frozen" until paid.


SORRY SO LONG.



Please note that I wasn't accusing you of anything, simply speculating in broad generalizations.


For that small amount, I would work out a payment plan and pay it off asap.  That is a very small amount even if it seems like a lot right now.  Even if you have a legal case against your school, I doubt you will get an attorney to handle it without it costing more than that, and even if you did, it would take longer than simply paying it off.   The financial office will probably make a payment plan with you, but may or may not allow you to take more courses until then even if you pay cash.  Also, if you don't pay you will be reported to credit reporting agencies, and that will make it impossible for you to get other forms of credit.  If you had Federal loans, you could end up in default, and you do NOT want to default on a Federal student loan.  You will wreck your credit, and not be eligible for any other Federal assistance program, or to work for the federal government.  You could also have difficulties finding employment in other areas if you default on a federal student loan.


This doesn't mean you have to give up on nursing school.  It just means it will take you longer, and you will have pay cash.


Apply for scholarships.  There are a lot of them out there.  And/or work and save your money, and pay cash.  Does your CC have an LPN program?  Going for that would get you into the workworld faster, and you could then bridge to an RN program later.


Your situation sucks, but given your history of constantly withdrawing, I am not surprised by the financial aid office's actions.  The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and they have NO reason to believe you will follow through and complete your program.  Even though you did well for one semester, it was only ONE semester.


You will have to take and complete courses over several semesters, and pay back what you owe.  Then you might be able to convince them that you have a better track record, and can qualify  to you financial aid in the future.


Good luck.

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i just read your story and it almost brought me to tears! i feel bad for you im in a simular situation myself where i owe the feds in back taxes. about 7grand . and i just enrolled into a nursing program. my advice to you is NEVER GIVE UP!! NEVER GIVE UP!! if your working rite now see if your employer will pay for some of your schooling or see if you qualify for a scholarship or something. if you have children living with you its a plus for you! even though you owe the school $700.00 see if you can come up with a partial payment lets say $250.00 just to let them know that your willing to take some sort of financial responsibility.ya feel me? keep in mind that everything is negotiable! everything! even if you pay all that money back consider going to a vocational or trade school to start you on that path its a hell of a lot cheaper and most likely you can transfer to a different school. it seems like to me that the cc your trying to get the transcript from is giving u headaches and heartaches because they think you r by yourself and you dont have representation. if you were to show up at that school with a lawyer just to let them know that they will not stop you from furthering your education maybe theyll back off. maybe there giving you an education and you just dont know it. maybe there trying to see how far you will go and what lengths you will go to further your education. it sounds like they r using a tactic known as a jedi mind trick! thats how they weed out the good from the bad nurses. one of the main rules of nursing is problem solving. and since you have problem they want to know at what lengths will u go to solve that problem. so please dont go feeling sorry for yourself. a good nurse would never do that! i had the pleasure of reading a fantastic book called QUANTUM LEAP THINKING BY James P. Mapes. i reccomend you read this book because it will INSPIRE and EMPOWER you! Heres an old saying that i try to live by and maybe it will help you, it goes. " TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT YOUVE NEVER DONE!

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I really don't think she is saying it's about the money - I feel she is saying it's about the hard time the college is giving her!  None the less if Nursing is you dream don't give up it is only a minor set back and we all have to deal with set backs and trials if I may - they make us stronger in the long run. 


As for you Mr. Brown - glad to see more Fresenius Employees on this site.  I currently work in NC for Fresenius Medical Care as a Patient Care tech and am pursuing a Nursing degree.  I chose not to go through Fresenius for the tuition reimbersement so that I can work where I choose when I'm finished with school, praying to God I can make it as I'm working full time and going to school.