NursingLink

this should be one sweet forum,,,,,, let the games begin...

And thank you for not making it anonymous...

My question is why do you need a forum like this??? Shouldn't some things be left in the closet?  This site is here for what you do for a living not what you do on a personal level.  Its ok to be outspoken but some things are better left unsaid and everyone just doesn't need to know everyone's business.

COMEBACK says ...

My question is why do you need a forum like this??? Shouldn't some things be left in the closet?  This site is here for what you do for a living not what you do on a personal level.  Its ok to be outspoken but some things are better left unsaid and everyone just doesn't need to know everyone's business.

If this is true, why are there threads about children and husbands?

", but I think the difference is heterosexuals can pro-create where as Gays/Lesbians cannot."

I had no idea this was true...Sooo the lesbian couple I know who had twins.... you are telling me they are closet heterosexuals? Oh the irony..

"I am heterosexual and I think that this is an abomination,"

As do I madam, as do I.

As are threads dealing with husbands and wives...

A realtionship is a realtionship is a relationship....The OP was not talking about ANYTHING but her RELATIONSHIP with her SO.... and acceptance by closed minded bigots at her workplace..... just as many heterosexuals on here prattle on about thier spouses and offsrping.gay and lesbian couples deserve a forum without being told to keep it in the closet....

I DETEST children.. but I do not get onto forums where parent exhault the virtues of thir offspring... and tell them people do not wnat to hear that drivel..I avoid threads i care nothing about... I think that should be a take home lesson to many.

i detest nurses who make judgement calls especially when it comes to pain med administration. i could give a flyin flip whether or not you like boys or girls just don't make decisions to give pain med based on whether or not they "look" like they are in in pain!

Samantha - first off, you are very brave. Given the unnecessarily rude and vapid comments of some members of this board, it's surprising that a differing POV would pop up here. Don't let some of the inane comments already posted to your thread scare you off from participating around here.

I think that, as with any job, coworkers in nursing will want to talk about their life - what they did last weekend, what their plans are for the holidays, and what's going on at home. I've been witness to some very immature behavior by homophobes when someone innocuously mentions their same-sex partner, and it's a damn shame. I'd suggest seeking out a support group in your area for professionals affected by homophobia in the workplace, or sticking with likeminded coworkers when the discussion turns to the personal. Unfortunately (as demonstrated here), there will alway be someone who thinks it's their place to make some sort of judgment statement just because you're living your life, don't sink to their level and allow them to make you feel as ugly as they do on the inside.

kellyj says ...

i detest nurses who make judgement calls especially when it comes to pain med administration. i could give a flyin flip whether or not you like boys or girls just don't make decisions to give pain med based on whether or not they "look" like they are in in pain!

Whisky Tango Foxtrot?

Well my goodness gracious.... Why do people even post their opinion when they are obviously not lesbian/gay/bi and only have negative things to say? Why did you even click on this post when you disagree about my "lifestyle"or don't care? it's not even remotely the kind of response I was asking for. It seems pointless to me. Not only did you click on it, you chose to REPLY and leave your empty, worthless comments on here. It's just frustrating to me.....Am i talking crazy talk?

To the people who actually responded and left worthwhile comments, I thank you. (alphamale, true247, captnpatchemup, and nursejenny1310). I am myself at work, I'm honest with anybody who asks, and I'm open to their questions. I think that's the best thing that I can do. Again, thank you for your wonderful, encouraging comments.

I've never talked anything "grotesque", or "revealing" about my personal life,...and I think it's the same thing as someone else posting about their husbands, wives, or children. There's even a post about affairs! Oh my,...  I was just asking about similar people in my situation (or know someone in my situation), and how nurses at work deal with it.  End of Story.

I am not a lesbian, however, my niece and several very close female friends are.  My take on this is very simple....if you are not waking up with MY husband tomorrow morning, then why should I care who you wake up with?  I say love one another, regardless of sex, regardless of race, regardless of religion.  There is far too much hate in the world for me to be worried about two women or two men who love one another and just want to lives their lives in peace and tranquility.  I find the stereotypes related to homosexuality ridiculous...if you're a gay man you must be a child molester or sexually promiscuous.  If you're a lesbian then you must be butch or be a man hater.  These things are just not true.  I don't find it all that different than a man saying he prefers brunettes over blondes.  Samantha, be happy, honey, with whomever you choose to be happy with! 

 I'm not a lesbian, but I feel that if that is what you want then so be it.  Noone and i mean NOOOOOO ONE can judge another because they are not perfect.  If they want to quote the bible,  they need to turn back a few pages to see that no one can judge but God himself.  So if that is your sexual orientation so be it.. If that person you are with be it with the same sex or opposite makes you happy but someone in your family or "circle of friend" not ... screw them and live your life with the person that is making it worthwhile and stress free.  

That's my opinion.

I am 31 years old, have been a nurse for 10 years and have been gay for 16 years. I used to feel like something was wrong with me, but coming out and meeting a lot of good friends that support me, made things a lot easier. I am a damn good RN, everyone I work with knows I am a lesbian and the majority accept this. The others, I really do not worry about any more. I feel that what I do, who I love, or even who I just fool around with is none of anyone elses business.

Samantha, I applaud you for starting a forum like this. I know there will always be people who think we do not need a forum like this, but I disagree and obviously so do you.

Samantha,

I know exactly what you mean. During nursing school, I was in a relationship with a woman. My classmates (all of whom were heterosexual, except my close friends who were mostly not) talked about their relationships often, and occasionally asked me about mine - but never really knew what to do with it. And the questions they asked me were different from the ones they asked each other: which one of you is the guy in the relationship? So, what do two women actually do in bed? Never mind, I don't want to know. What do your parents think? It was always a little uncomfortable, but I guess I'd rather them ask me those questions than ask their patients those questions - and I try to explain, when I'm feeling patient, why those are disrespectful (or just really uninformed) questions to ask, and help answer people's questions so they are more aware of how differently they react to queer relationships than straight ones.

Now I'm in a relationship with a man. This is, in some ways, even more uncomfortable because my fellow nurses talk to me about it the same way they talk to heterosexuals about their relationships. It's so weird to pass! I've been out since I was eleven (fifteen years ago), and so rarely been seen as a heterosexual. Anyway it's all very strange.

So yeah, I know what you mean, with the conversations. And the accidental homophobic comments. Straight people, even with the best intentions, sometimes say things like "certainly love is good, and I respect all healthy relationships, but when it comes to the marriage question, a child needs a mother and a father." People say this to me all the time, acting like it's a political or theoretical question - not a direct judgment on my child-rearing skills, or those of my gay mother. But this is not only difficult to work with, it's also terrible for our patients who have to be exposed to their nurses' prejudices.

Sigh. I guess I'm in rantsville. Oh well.

 know exactly what you mean. During nursing school, I was in a relationship with a woman. My classmates (all of whom were heterosexual, except my close friends who were mostly not) talked about their relationships often, and occasionally asked me about mine - but never really knew what to do with it. And the questions they asked me were different from the ones they asked each other: which one of you is the guy in the relationship? So, what do two women actually do in bed? Never mind, I don't want to know. What do your parents think?

People reply that way, because they want to be polite, but don't know what to ask.  It's that way with anything, that someone can't relate to.  I have 5 kids.  I get asked, are they all yours, were they all planned,  are you catholic or mormon, and do they have the same father?......Why, because most people don't have 5 kids, and can't even fathom why someone would do it.  Don't take the questions as an insult, but as an opening that they want to get to know you. 

If you are in love and are happy and not hurting anyone it  shouldn't matter what sex you prefer?  I am happily married and my daughter ever came to me and her father and told us she was a lesbian, it would not bother me, as long as she was happy I would support her. 

You are always going to find people who look down at you, ignore them.  Life is about the choices you make and why should you hide anything?  My cousin is a lesbian and she came out when she was 35...all those years feeling ashamed hiding and trying to please everyone else but herself, she is so much happier now and is finally enjoying her life, I say screw them, be who you are and live your life to the fullest.

Don't let anyone bring you down, you deserve better than that.